You are only embarrassed if you think you are. No one should need people to defend them. Haters are participators. Love yourself, face what you really want to be and then realize that haters are only fuel for your fire.
Everyone must be his own fucking leader. No asking. No defending. It is not needed; just decide how it's gonna be for you and your life! Right now! And never again feel the need to defend yourself; trust yourself to judge what is right.